Day 4: My Dream Job (Day 4 of 30 Day Blogging Challenge)
I have three dream jobs. One I’ve been lucky enough to experience. The other two I want to manifest within the next decade.
The dream job I’ve been blessed to experience is being a stay at home mom when my kids were pre-school aged. I loved being there for their first word, first step, etc. I loved cuddling and playing with my kids without feeling rushed because of a bedtime or having to leave for work.
People tried to tell me what it was like to be a parent, but I don’t think anyone ever really captured the reality in their words. Nobody told me I would feel more proud of the pictures my kids colored or of when they sing than I would be of any successes at college or work. Nobody told me all the priorities in my life would change, and some things that used to mean everything to me now mean so much less. I didn’t realize that I could love someone so much, and for no reason other than they exist. No one really explained that as a mom I’d want my children to depend on me as much as possible, but as a good mom, my job is to teach them to not need me anymore. No one told me it would feel good and hurt at the same time when my daughters learned to walk, and when they wanted to start playing by themselves instead of wanting me to entertain them. No one told me I wouldn’t care about going to the grocery store in a messed up pony tail and stained jeans as long as my child looked good. Nobody told me I’d learn to like the color pink. Nobody told me I’d look forward to painting my fingernails just so I could hear my daughter exclaim, “Mommy, so pretty!” Nobody said my greatest accomplishments and biggest mistakes would all involve my children
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I don’t know what to call my second dream job. I strongly believe in equality for all and I love educating people and fighting for the oppressed. I’d love to be a part of something huge that makes an impact on society and helps others get their full rights. I feel children are often overlooked when it comes to children’s rights, and am actually in the process of trying to get a law passed in NJ called Cassie’s Law. I’m forming a community that is working to get legislation passed that if a parent has been found guilty or plead guilty in court or if DYFS (or a similar organization in another state) or NJ Cares (or a similar institution in another state that works with the courts) has substantiated sexual abuse, that said parent forfeits their “right” to visitation with their minor children. As of now, sexually abusive parents have more rights than innocent children. I don’t know if this is something that could become a job or if it’s always going to be a volunteer position, but I feel passionate about it.
My third dream job is more likely along the lines of what people think about when they think of their dream job. Mine is to become a published author or a blogger with 1,000,000+ followers. I’d love to achieve both goals. I’d love to write a book that people love so much it becomes a movie, or it becomes a best seller. I’d love to have the talent and insight similar to Dan Pearce of Single Dad Laughing, who is a full time professional blogger with a large audience. Now that both of my kids are in school and don’t need constant supervision, I’ve found more time to focus on my writing again.
